If Your Man Knew What to Say, Here’s What He Might Say If He Knew You Feared His Potential For Violence...

Excerpted from Warren Farrell's Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say.

(Permission to reprint granted by Warren Farrell.)
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If we believe that it is predominantly men who batter women, it is hard to see why women also need to change: We will continue saying, “Just change the men... they're the batterers,” as this United Way brochure stresses.

This assumption prevents us from redoing the male-female dance from a non-blame perspective. The first step is men taking responsibility for sharing their reality. But even as men do, it always surprises me how differently we listen to men’s reality...